Just the other night over dinner with my dad, a construction superintendent with 50 years in the trade, our conversation turned towards my fifteen year career as a high school English teacher. I was grading papers at the time, and one of them happened to be a narrative written by a student who loved reading war novels. The student seemed like a younger version of my dad, who consumes war novels like Don Quixote consumed tales of chivalry. I shared the essay with my dad, who was beyond impressed. He said, “Where did he come up with that idea? It’s brilliant”.
I
answered, “The story is a his own based on the stories he’s read, but the idea
of what to write, imagining him in every story, I gave him that idea”. I
added that while I gave him the idea, it wasn't mine originally but had been
used in one variation or another in Don Quixote and “The Secret Life of Walter
Mitty”, among others. My dad paused for a moment to form up his thoughts. Then
he said, “That’s what you do”? It was more a question than a statement and with
a look of wonderment in his eyes, he answered the question: “You help your
students express ideas they didn’t know they had in ways that connect with
thinkers they’ve never thought of”.
Wow.
I was impressed. His flattering summation of my work made it sound so
important, which then made his follow up statement all the more shocking: “It’s
too bad you didn’t stay in construction”.
I was speechless.
But
he was only getting started, so he continued: “I mean you’re so good at
connecting with people of all ages, of making sense of difficult concepts, and
you’re always looking for ways to do your job better—“He paused to form up his
thoughts again,”—if you had stayed in construction, you’d probably be making
125 K or more by this point with your skills. Instead, you are stuck in a job
that doesn’t reward you for the work you do.
Seeing
my dumbfounded (ness) as an invitation to continue, he added, “you know that
John that went to Granite (Granite Hills HS) with you--graduated a year after
you--he works on the same job site with me, and I bet he’s making 140-150 K a
year with his company. It’s too bad you didn’t go the same route”.
I
shuddered, not at the thought of my dad wanting the highest salary possible for
me, (what parent doesn’t want that for their child) but at the thought of him
being disappointed that I had persevered through college night classes while
working construction by day to earn my Bachelor’s degree; at the thought of him
being disappointed that I had continued my education for another year to earn
my credential; and finally at the thought of him being disappointed that I was
good at what I do, which it now appeared
as though he saw as a waste of my talent.
With
the current strike of our Alpine teachers, I can’t help but think of this
conversation, because it highlights the disconnect that exists between
educators and certain members of the general public. Some of the general public believe we, as
teachers, are too selfless, while others believe we are too selfish. The truth
is we are somewhere in between, but I think tipping toward selfless. Teachers
are not asking for the salary other professionals make , even though most put
in similar hours and energy, and the job is arguably (I understand if you
disagree) as important to the future of our country as that of lawyers. What
teachers are asking for is a wage that respects the commitment they have made
to your kids future with an initial education, an ongoing education, and a
relentless pursuit of success for all children whether they be yours, mine, or
their own.
To
me that doesn’t sound selfish. Selfish would be listening to my dad’s advice
and taking my talent I use to teach and using it in a career with a higher salary
ceiling simply for the monetary reward.
Here in Alpine, the Alpine teachers are doing what they need to do to
keep a living wage, a respectable wage and still use their energies to educate
the children in this community. They are not trying to break the bank and we
know that because they are willing to take lowered benefits and take a small
pay cut while the majority of the school districts in San Diego County are
giving their teachers raise between 3-7%.
At
this time, as parents we need to support the people that have the greatest
impact on our kids: their teachers. Stand up for our teachers and you also
stand up for the future of all our kids. Not standing up for the teachers here
in Alpine and our community could be spending the summer watching Alpine
teachers headed to other districts or choosing to go into other lines of work.
In addition, other teachers could choose to not come to Alpine to teach at all.
Pat Bowers
I just want to weep at the thoughtlessness of parents at times.
ReplyDeleteI would like to think that your dad was well intentioned and wants the best for you and your family. I do believe he is very proud of you. As one of your colleagues I admire what you and all English teachers do. Keep up the good work Pat. In many years from now you will continue to know that you have chosen the right path and realize that you were very fortunate to have the opportunity to be a successful teacher.
ReplyDeleteYour friend, John Skedd
I agree with John. Very well said. I am sad to hear your dad putting down your chosen profession and thinking money is the most important thing. I wish he would've simply said he was proud of you and impressed with all you inspire kids to be. And, perhaps asked you if you were happy teaching and your choice. And then listened. Parents have no idea their power and impact for either the positive or negative. I was only at PHS for a short time but I also thought and heard what a wonderful English Teacher you were/are.
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